Take a second and think about what friends you have now.

How long have you known them and how many of your current friends have been around for 5 or 10 years plus? Most of us wont have many 10 year plus friends, most of us are spending time with the most conveniently close people we have met and have shared the most laughs with.

Not to throw shade at humanity as a whole, but friends come and go like seasons and most people you meet will NOT be around for the long haul. Life changes such as moving away, going off to college and starting relationships changes the way we interact with people.

The most important part of a friendship is having a trustworthy foundation. Without trust , how could you feel good about consciously sharing space with another being? That is not a safe, positive, or thriving environment.

Though many people may seem “cool”, character trumps personality by far. Someone with just a great personality will charm you, entice you and take you out with them, but then will always be conveniently unavailable when you need them for anything serious. Someone with good character will not only make good memories with you, but will also hold your hair back when you are throwing up in the bathroom and take you home after it has been confirmed that you cannot stand up straight when, for instance, you find out “he’s” been out with “her” again.

A friend that you can trust and that has good character will be there for you when you need it the most, when it seems like no one else cares. Fair weather friends are only there for when things seem to be going well and when there is a situation that they can benefit from.

Knowing who is there for real and who is simply there for the party will save us a lot of hurt and energy in the future. Be sure that you are able to differentiate.

Say farewell to fair weather friends!

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