This past weekend I took a vacation to visit some family out of state. While there, I was able to spend a lot of time with my niece and nephew and get to know them more, which is definitely what I needed. During one of the talks my niece and I were having, the subject of taking care of a man was brought up.

Now my niece, who is in her 20’s as well, asked me a lot of questions about life and relationships, but that topic of taking care of a man probed me to start thinking: How long are you really willing to do for a man before enough is enough?

You have some women who will continuously hold that man and give their all and last to a man who would barely give them 25% of what they have. Crazy, yes I know, but it happens – a little too often if you ask me.

But why is though that these women give their all to a man who is pretty much useless to them? Are they that desperate to have a man around or that naïve to believe that this man really loves them?

To be honest, it could be a combination of both from what I’ve seen. Some women can feel as if they need to have a man around because of the comfortable state that they provide or because they are past the stage of being lonely.

Usually this woman that is with this useless man keeps the same pattern of men. They become this habitual useless man dater and end up getting hurt over and over again. They’re usually not realizing that the problem doesn’t lie within the “useless” man that they are dating; it lies within them for being drawn to those types of men. Some women might feel as if they have to keep that man around for a sense of security or they may need him there too feel that love that they were lacking in the past.

In my opinion though, wouldn’t one rather be alone then to be stuck with a man who uses them and refuses to provide for them and their household? It’s a certain limit to holding your man down before you have to haul your man out.

The unfortunate part about this is that most women come up with excuses as to why they choose to keep this man around instead of realizing that his time in their life may be up. My only suggestion is to really evaluate what you may be doing and what he may not be doing to make you happy. As always, your happiness is most important and if in a relationship you can’t experience that, some things may need to be rearranged.

Your Thoughts?