I always hear women speak on how they are extremely tired of being single and how they are ready for love. My friends tell me how much they miss being with someone and miss having that relationship that provides stability as well as that security that they are looking for.

Now while I too am ready to settle down after living the single life for quite some time, the question I always ask myself and people who feel the same is “Are you SURE that you’re ready?”

Sure, you can state over and over again how much being in love is what you want and how you love the feeling of being in love, but have you truly and honestly worked towards it?

I find it funny how sometimes I hear of women wanting that fairy tale lifestyle that has love basically happening overnight without any effort or work put in. Love isn’t just one of those things that “just happens” contrary to your belief. It requires work, dedication and security within yourself and you and your partner’s capabilities.

While some may argue that love is something that you feel and you “just know” when it’s right, you also have to add in the factors of what it takes to be able to walk in love and enjoy it. Yes, you definitely “just know” when you’ve found love, but how do you know if you’re really walking in it? I’ve seen couples that have been together for years on top of years and still utter the words “I love you,” but haven’t walked in love with one another in many, many years.

You can say you love someone strictly based off of the access that you have to them – it basically becomes a clouded mirror into what love truly is.

I strongly believe that in order to really walk in love and let go of everything, it is a work in progress. You can’t expect to wake up one morning and find yourself getting a promotion for a job that you haven’t done any work for, right? Look at love in a somewhat similar way.

They always say that you must work for what you want. If you have to bend a little to get a lot, then get your Gabby Douglas on. All I know is that when it comes down to how I want to spend my life, I’d rather be able to say that I’m still walking in love on my 50h wedding anniversary opposed to just uttering the words, “I love you”.

Your Thoughts?