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To quote a line from our fellow Diva, Mary J. Blige: It feels so good when you let go of all the drama in your life!
Divas, theres something we have to discuss. First, I need all of you to get a mirror. A small one, medium one, full length one…it doesnt matter…just get one. The next step is I want you to look into it. Hard. Ignore the fact that you may not have any makeup on, or you may have a few hairs out of place, or your lipgloss may need some retouching…just look in the mirror. Do you see that beautiful face? That face, is worth it. That face, deserves to live stress free and without drama, hate and dormant malice.
Do you agree?
I know you do, Diva…and that brings me to the next part of our little assignment.
Divas I need us to identify & eliminate the stressors in our lives. Especially our love lives. Love & relationships are meant to be savored. Experienced. Filled with the joy and companionship that keeps us telling stories around fireplaces to our eager grandchildren…not stressing us out.
If you constantly feel like your mate is playing games to get you to show emotion or get a rise out of you…or keeps putting you off or making you feel unimportant, it may be time to think about other options. Let me be clear, I am not saying that the solution for any relationship hiccup (and those will come in ANY situation) is to leave, but as I am known for saying ; Love is Patient, not dumb as hell. Do NOT allow yourself to be used and taken advantage of because you love someone, because guess what…Love does NOT hurt. It does NOT make you feel less of yourself..and it does NOT cause you to feel as though you have to always apologize for things you didn’t even know you did. Love will NOT always have you feel like a Joker when you know you should always be the Queen.
As always Divas, I want us to have full ownership of our emotions and acknowledge even those things that make us uncomfortable. Sometimes it not about being a “ride or die chick”…the time is going to come when we have to be a “bye-bye Woman”. Its up to you to decide.
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Nikki757
November 21, 2012 at 7:41 pm
This truly hit the nail on the head. I was feeling the exact same way with someone that I was just dating. I never had to just date for 1 year and not be in a relationship eventually with that person. I always dated that person for about 1 to 2 months tops and then we have “The Talk” about being exclusive. Me being 34 and dating a 42 year old, I thought that I would be getting to know someone that is truely looking for love and not about Games. I should’ve known better being that he never had kids, never been married and still plays the PlayStation that there was commitment issues. My first red flag was when he said he didnt want to raise small kids. I have two (9&6), but he gave me money to get them something for X-Mas from him and didnt mind practicing all while insinuating that he wanted me to have his child. The second red flag was whlile I only dated him when asked what are we doing here, he says we still taking it slow and advised that he is still dating other people. I felt like the fool putting all my time and energy into just him and he wasnt doing the same. He volutarily wanted to meet my parents which was something else that puzzled me and fooled me again into thinking we are working towards being in a relationship. The thing is I tried several times to run but he would feel some type of way and wonder why. He would say I am impatient and say we are working towards building a relationship. I gave him several chances to figure it out but enough is enough.
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R-X! Replied:
February 4th, 2013 at 9:06 am
Nikki, it seems like you were caught in a case of the man “saying what you wanted to hear” for you to stick around. Men for some reason can sometimes think that women with children are desperate for companionship and will stick around just for the sake of sticking around. Although we make mistakes sometimes and we can give a person too many chances, 3 red flags is too many. You have children and you need to place them as a priority in your life..and that includes your romantic life. Him saying to me he didnt want to raise small children and I have one thats 9 & one thats 6..would have gotten his ass..on his ass. I applaud you for finally realizing enough is enough..but I need you to know..that YOU are enough. Do your thing, Nikki-girl!
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bryan
April 1, 2013 at 7:45 pm
i,m in a situation ,i made a big mistake i lied one time in the relationship now there is know emotional love ,from my lady,i go all out to please ,very dependable ,be there when she needs ,very handly around the the two serpreates house/mind and her,have a job ,good credit, don’t live with mommy,own cars, love too cook an clean, physically fit. .i love this women ,four years ago i promise GOD I WILL LOVE HIM MY ALL IN PRAISES HIM . GIVE MY ALL IN THE NEXT RELATIONSHIP,SO NOW I DON’T WANT TO BREAK MY PROMISE TO GOD,HOWEVER I FEEL I,M BEING USED.I DO DO DO ,DON’T GET ANY EMOTIONAL OR PHYSICAL BACK.NEED HELP
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Miss R-X!
April 1, 2013 at 9:06 pm
Bryan, if you are saying you cheated on your partner because you were not being emotionally or physically fulfilled….you are dead wrong. I can understand your point as being the sole provider, but that is your job. Part of your job is also communicating when you are unhappy and being man enough to let your partner know that before you go and seek outside satisfaction. Was the relationship always like this? Was there a major event that changed the dynamic? No woman just shuts herself completely down without a reason. It seems to me like you feel you are being used..and if that is the case, before you go and spread someone else’s legs, you need to get your partner to open their mind and have a candid conversation.
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