Has giving all you have got ever let you in the dust? Do you find yourself doing more and more to make a situation work that is failing miserably. Often in our relationships, we find ourselves putting in more than we are getting out. Anytime there is unbalance in your love life, serious problems are bound to arise. One leg does not support a chair, neither does one extremely long leg. It takes two committed individuals that are willing to compromise to create a healthy and in tuned relationship. When you begin putting all of your energy and love into your man, you lose focus in all other areas of your life. This intense focus becomes an obsession. You begin to neglect self-care, friends, family and even your job. Possessing the ability to be able to balance your life will in turn create a similar parallel in your love life.

Here is a Check-list of questions to look over in order to ensure that you are not loving your man, too much.

1. Have you recently neglected your personal responsibilities because of your obsession?
2. Has your mate become distant?
3. Are you consumed with thoughts of your partner and nothing else?
4. Is everything you do in effort to please your relationship over anything else?
5. Do you blow off, plans, work, family and friends in favor of your partner?

If you answered “Yes” more than “No”, it is now your responsibility to compartmentalize. Change your way of thinking, be with him because you want to and not because you are codependent. Make sure that all other areas of your life are taken care of before you invest major time and emotion and also reciprocate the same amount of attention your partner gives you. No one wants their partner to suffocate them. Love him or her too much and you will most likely end up pushing him away.

Your thoughts?