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How many times have you said to yourself, “He’s not my type” or “I don’t usually date people like that”? I’m sure more than most of us have. Then, we go with the guy that we normally would date and end up back on the market. For some of us, it ends happily – we get the guy that is our type and it works out perfectly. For those who are similar to me though, it doesn’t always end that great.
We have a tendency to go with what society has made to be the “perfect” spouse. Wanting a man that has a great six pack, muscles, a nice wardrobe and has a flawless face is usually the type of man that we are attracted to. If he has a great career, that makes it even better! Hook line & sinker!
What we haven’t paid attention to – or if you have, what you’ve been ignoring – is the fact that the type of man you keep saying is your “type” is the same type of man that is continuously hurting you. Of course, not every woman is getting hurt by their “type” of man and not everyone’s type is the reflection of what was stated above, but if you are being hurt and you have a “type”, did you ever consider that this is could be what is keeping you in and out of relationships?
Have you ever thought that maybe you needed to change the type of man you normally go for? I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that seeing a man who isn’t dressed as well as the men I’m used to dating is automatically deemed as “not my type”. It can even go as deep as having a man that has a job opposed to a career – we women are very picky.
When it comes to relationships though, you have all the right to be cautious and selective on the “type” of man you choose to be courted by. I only suggest that you open up and give something out of your normality a try. Obama’s slogan for his 2008 campaign was “Change We Can Believe In”. Maybe your change can give you something more to believe in with men.
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4 COMMENTS
VanessaAshley
September 12, 2012 at 4:57 pm
Yes, yes and YES!! we always talk about doing something we’ve never done in order to get something we’ve never had but somehow we continue to go after the same ‘type.’ Trying something new has never hurt anybody!
LOVE the article!
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B. Nicole
September 12, 2012 at 7:29 pm
Hello! You are preaching to the choir! So many of us wait to get something we never had from guy’s we’ve had before. Maybe one day, we’ll listen!
P.S. Sooooo very proud of you
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ejitterbugg
September 14, 2012 at 4:31 pm
Finally! What I’ve been feeling and saying yet could never put it in the right words. This article hits the nail on the head.
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Chadrick Williams
September 14, 2012 at 5:21 pm
Kesi P…..GARSH DARNIT!!! You hit it on the head with this one. From a male’s perspective, or maybe just mine, most women can be very complicated. Most have certain walls built from past experiences, and most have specific standards that have been built up from society, friends, family, etc. I agree with you completely, but I am pretty sure that I can speak for most males that it is not always the “men” who are the problem, or the reason the female is being hurt. Sometimes that “type” could really be your type as you say, but in a sense, the change may be the woman herself and not her mindset of being one-sided. GREAT POST!!!
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